Humility often means that you agree with those who think the world of you.
That’s right. When someone thinks you’re awesome or you are great at something, you can be humble and agree with them.
“Hey man, you’re a pretty sick air hockey player.”
“Oh thanks. What can I say? That is a talent I do possess!”
But for some, our first instinct is to deflect, avoid and karate chop anything positive that comes our way because if we accept it too readily then we may come across as arrogant… or so we think. [Side note: One of the few perks of being an Asian person is that you can make martial arts references in your writing without worrying about a public outcry. I’m sorry but I’m going to take advantage of whatever “perks” I can get, homies. Hi-YAHHH!]
I don’t assume I have this humility thing down but the little I know about it tells me that my pain and inner mess is a big part of the equation. Anytime I begin to think that I’m hot stuff (in a bad way), all I have to do is remember that deep down, I’m a mess. The good news is that the process doesn’t end there. Yes, I’m a mess but this brokenness provides me the opportunity to get to know the real me and then get over myself (in a good way).
A person who takes compliments well is a person who is over his/her own hype or lack there-of.
“Humility does not mean thinking less of yourself than of other people, nor does it mean having a low opinion of your own gifts. It means freedom from thinking about yourself at all.” ~William Temple
So may we be free of preoccupation with self (positive and negative) while at the same time, being able to accept the words of truth that others offer us when they recognize the beauty we contribute to the world. . . one air hockey goal at a time.
Do you struggle with humility? Have you thought about it in these terms before?