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On Kind Words

Hey Everybody,

It’s been forever and a day since my last post.  This blog is not dead.  It just woke up from hibernation like a bear in winter.  A very long, cold winter.  A very long, cold winter in Antarctica.  Which is pretty much winter all year long.  So now we’re moving out of Antarctica and moving into Southern California.  Which is where I live now. . . shall I go on?

Just a quick thought about kind words.

Funerals are sad, we can all agree on that right?  You know what makes funerals doubly sad?  The fact that the kind words and eulogies given will never be heard by the person who passed away.  The tragedy of “I never got a chance to say . . . ” is an absolute killer.

Going-away parties, last-day-at-work parties, etc are also pretty sad.  A lot of “I have always wanted to tell you this but … ” and “I wish we got to know each other…” or “I think you’re super hot” are kind words that almost sting when you consider the possibility that they might have meant a lot more had they been shared before you ever mentioned leaving!  (Side note: I also feel incredibly awkward when some of the parting words get a little out of hand.  Things like, “You were always my favorite” or “You single-handedly changed my life forever” or “You complete me” are never as much fun to hear when they feel like desperate euphemisms for “Sorry I never gave you the time of day.  Like ever.”  Just for the record, I have never heard these words said to me before so no harm done.  Phew!)

It’s unfortunate that we often save our kindest, best words for when it is almost (or is) too late.  There’s no harm in looking at the people who mean something to you square in the eye once in a while to let them know that they freakin’ rock. I think this is one of many things we could do right away to make this world a better place.

So tell me: What are some “parting words” you heard that made you feel ridiculous?  On the converse, what are some in-the-moment-when-it-matters words you heard that totally breathed new life into you? 

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2 responses

  1. MiFOCALS

    An ex-coworker of mine was leaving her position to take on an Associate Registrar position at another university (not exactly a job coveted by people in counseling). I think her group of counselors was pretty upset she was leaving (instead of being happy for her promotion) because more than likely the school was just going to cut her position once she was gone, leaving everyone with more work. When one of her coworkers asked her, “So what happened to the former Assoc. Registrar?” she said, “That person actually passed away.” And then one of her coworkers said, “Well, I guess that’s what happens to people who work in that position.”

    Isn’t that AWFUL?

    This would be one of those ridiculous moments…

    April 10, 2012 at 8:22 am

  2. DK

    that takes the cake on ridiculous moments… wasn’t even thinking along those lines! craziness!

    April 11, 2012 at 10:47 pm

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